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Leaving Safely – U.S. Planning Guide
A neutral U.S. guide on preparing to leave an abusive situation safely and privately, with practical steps and no emotional language.
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Leaving Safely: A Practical Guide
Preparing Documents
- • Gather identification: driver’s license, passport, birth certificates
- • Secure any legal documents: restraining orders, custody papers, court orders
- • Collect financial and insurance paperwork: bank statements, insurance cards, social security cards
- • Include medical and school records if applicable
- • Store copies securely, preferably outside your home or in a digital secure folder
Financial Steps (General)
- • Open a new bank account in your name only, if possible
- • Save emergency cash in a safe, accessible place
- • Cancel or put on hold joint credit/debit cards
- • Create a budget considering your new living situation
- • Keep important contact numbers for financial institutions handy
Technology Considerations
- • Check devices for tracking apps or software; remove if found
- • Change passwords on all personal and financial accounts
- • Use private or incognito browsing modes when researching or communicating
- • Consider using a secure, anonymous email or phone number
- • Inform trusted contacts through a safe method about your plans
Packing Essentials
- • Pack clothing suitable for at least a week, including weather-appropriate items
- • Include essential hygiene products and medications
- • Take copies of your important documents (physical and digital)
- • Bring a phone charger and a prepaid phone or phone card for emergencies
- • Avoid packing items that may pinpoint your new location
Transportation & Timing
- • Plan your departure time to avoid routines or predictable schedules
- • Use trusted transportation methods; consider multiple options if needed
- • Inform a trusted person of your general plan without revealing exact details
- • Have emergency numbers programmed or written down
- • Keep your journey discreet and avoid stops that could compromise your privacy
After Leaving: Privacy + Address Considerations
- • Use a P.O. box or trusted contact address for mail
- • Update your address only with trusted entities and where absolutely necessary
- • Review social media privacy settings and limit location sharing
- • Consider safety and privacy in any new online accounts or profiles
- • For ongoing support and resources, visit dv.support